“I don’t care who they date—I just don’t want that person around my child.”
Sound familiar?
You’re not alone. For many parents going through or finalizing a divorce, the introduction of a new partner—especially when children are involved—can feel like salt in the wound. Whether it’s concerns about safety, values, or just plain awkwardness, the emotions are real. But what does the law say?
Let’s break it down in plain English.
Can You Legally Control Who’s Around Your Child?
In short: not always—but sometimes.
Georgia law assumes both parents have the right to make decisions during their parenting time. That includes who they bring around the child. Unless your divorce agreement or custody order specifically limits who can be present (or includes a “morality clause”), you probably cannot dictate who your ex has around your child.
But there are exceptions.
Red Flags That Might Justify Legal Action
If the new partner:
- Has a criminal record, especially for violence or child-related offenses
- Engages in substance abuse around the child
- Disrupts or harms the child’s emotional or physical well-being
- Co-parents poorly or badmouths you in front of your child
… then it may be time to talk to an attorney. Judges do consider what’s in the best interest of the child—and bringing in a dangerous or disruptive adult can tip the scales in your favor.
How Judges View “New Relationships”
The courts in Georgia are focused on stability. They don’t care if your ex moved on “too fast” or if it hurts your feelings. What matters is whether the relationship impacts the child.
In many cases, courts prefer not to micromanage who a parent dates or introduces—unless there’s proven harm or disruption. So, it’s not about jealousy. It’s about safety.
What If There’s a Morality Clause?
A morality clause might require that neither parent can have overnight guests of the opposite sex (who are not family or spouses) while the child is present. If your agreement includes this, you may have legal grounds to challenge the new partner’s presence.
But beware: morality clauses can be hard to enforce—and times are changing. Judges don’t always favor these restrictions unless they serve a clear purpose.
Is There Anything You Can Do Right Now?
Absolutely.
- Document behavior: Keep notes of anything inappropriate, unsafe, or concerning.
- Talk to your child: Listen to their feelings without putting words in their mouth.
- Speak with an attorney: You may be able to seek a modification of custody or visitation if the new partner truly poses a problem.
It’s About the Child, Not the Conflict
At the end of the day, this isn’t about your ex. It’s about your child’s best interest.
If you’re unsure whether the new partner crosses a legal or emotional line, it’s time to get answers from someone who understands Georgia family law.
Need help understanding your options?
Let’s talk it through. Contact Catherine Verdery Ryan, Attorney at Law to get clear, compassionate guidance tailored to your situation.