It’s awkward. It’s confusing.
She left—but suddenly wants to “stop by.” Maybe to pick something up. Maybe to talk. Maybe to see the kids. But here’s the big question every man finds himself asking:
Can I change the locks—or will that blow up in my face?
Let’s break it down.
Who’s On the Lease or Deed?
If you’re the sole name on the lease or mortgage, and she’s officially moved out, you may be on solid ground to change the locks.
But here’s where it gets tricky:
- If she still receives mail there
- If she never formally surrendered her key
- If the home is considered marital property (even if it’s only in your name)
…then things can get messy fast.
📍 In Georgia: Until a divorce is final, both parties may retain property rights, even if one has moved out.
But What If She’s Coming In Uninvited?
You are not required to allow someone to access your home without your consent—especially if the relationship has become hostile or uncomfortable.
If she’s entering:
- Without your permission
- Without you being present
- Or causing arguments in front of the children
You may have grounds to change the locks—but it’s best to get legal clarity first.
How to Do It Right (Without Getting in Trouble)
Instead of a knee-jerk lock change, here’s a smarter play:
- Send Written Notice (text/email):
Politely ask her to arrange a time to pick up any remaining items and confirm she no longer resides there. - Consult an Attorney:
One wrong move, and you could face accusations of abandonment, property interference, or even a restraining order. - File for Temporary Orders:
If a divorce or custody case is pending, your lawyer can request a temporary order assigning exclusive use of the home. - Keep Cameras or Documentation:
If there are safety concerns, consider a home camera system or notes about unwanted visits.
What Not to Do
- Don’t change the locks while she’s still moving out.
- Don’t throw her things out without notice.
- Don’t escalate the situation with threats or confrontation.
Remember: Even if she’s out emotionally, the law might not agree yet.
You Deserve Peace—But Do It Legally
This isn’t about being cruel. It’s about boundaries.
You’re allowed to feel uncomfortable with her reappearing like nothing’s changed. But the smart move is always the legal one—not the emotional one.
“She left—now you need peace, privacy, and protection. But don’t let her choices get you caught up in court.”
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