There comes a point in many marriages when someone finally says the thing they have been thinking for months, maybe years: “I don’t know if I can do this anymore.” Sometimes that sentence means, I’m exhausted. Sometimes it means, I’m hurt. Sometimes it means, I’ve...
There is almost always a reason to wait. The kids are too young. The holidays are coming. Money is tight. Work is crazy. Maybe next year will be different. Maybe things will get better. Maybe this isn’t the right time. And sometimes, waiting is exactly the right...
There is a funny thing about the phrase “meet in the middle.” We usually hear it when someone wants us to compromise. “You take the first half. I’ll take the second.” “You give a little. I’ll give a little.” “Nobody gets everything they want, but everybody...
There is a phrase that gets used in divorce law that sounds almost clinical: “Irretrievably broken.” It has a certain finality to it. Like a vase shattered on a kitchen floor. Like a bridge washed out by a storm. Like something that cannot, under any circumstances, be...
There is an expression I have heard most of my life: Not every hill is worth dying on. It is good advice for life. It may be even better advice for divorce. Because when a marriage is ending, suddenly everything can feel like a hill. The coffee maker. The couch. The...
