There is an expression I have heard most of my life: Not every hill is worth dying on. It is good advice for life. It may be even better advice for divorce. Because when a marriage is ending, suddenly everything can feel like a hill. The coffee maker. The couch. The...
People have an interesting relationship with attorneys. They often think of us the same way they think of the fire department. Call when everything is already burning. By then, we’re focused on containing damage. But wouldn’t it be better if the smoke...
Sometimes the Greatest Victory is Deciding What Isn’t Worth the Fight Everyone wants to be right. That’s human nature. When a marriage ends, the urge to be right becomes even stronger. You want your side understood. You want your hurt acknowledged. You...
Some words carry more weight than they deserve. “Failure” is one of them. It’s a word I hear whispered in consultations. Sometimes directly. More often between the lines. “I never thought I’d be here.” “I feel like I’ve...
Edward Bulwer-Lytton famously wrote, “The pen is mightier than the sword.” More than 180 years later, I’d argue it’s also mightier than the argument. Especially in divorce. Because once the conversations are over…Once the emotions...
People think divorce is one decision. It isn’t. It’s hundreds. Some are obvious. Should we sell the house? What happens with the retirement accounts? What’s the parenting schedule? Others are much smaller. When do I move? Who keeps the family photos?...
