Let’s set the scene: you’re the financially stable parent. You’ve got a court order saying your child is supposed to be with you every other weekend—or maybe full-time. But when it’s time for the visit or transition? Your child refuses. They cry, they cling to the other parent, or maybe they just shut down.
It’s heartbreaking. And confusing.
So… now what?
First, Know This: You’re Not Alone
Plenty of loving, responsible parents go through this. Children, especially during and after divorce, are trying to make sense of a world that feels unpredictable. Sometimes, that resistance is rooted in emotion. Other times, it’s influenced by what they’re hearing from the other household.
Regardless, it doesn’t mean you’ve done something wrong.
Second, the Court Order Still Stands
Unless it’s officially modified by the court, your existing custody order is enforceable. That means both parents are expected to follow it—even if the child resists.
That doesn’t mean you should drag a child kicking and screaming. But it does mean you need to document what’s happening and take steps to address it legally, not just emotionally.
Third, It Might Be Time to Talk to the Court (and Your Lawyer)
Georgia courts care about what’s in the best interest of the child—but they also know kids can be influenced or emotionally confused. If this becomes a pattern, you may need to:
- File a motion to enforce the order or seek clarification.
- Request a guardian ad litem (a third-party advocate for the child).
- Ask for counseling—some judges will order reunification therapy or family counseling to help ease the transition.
Let the court help, especially if the other parent is encouraging the resistance (which, yes, happens more than you’d think).
Fourth, Keep Records of Everything
Write down every time your child refuses to come—what happened, what was said, who was present. Include texts or emails between you and your ex. This isn’t about being dramatic; it’s about being prepared if you need to show the court a clear pattern.
Fifth, Focus on Long-Term Trust
As painful as this is, yelling, blaming the other parent, or pushing your child harder usually backfires. The goal is to build trust—not force compliance. Let your child know you want them, miss them, and love them. Then work through the proper legal channels to make it happen.
Need Help Navigating This?
It’s not just about the order—it’s about the people involved. If your child is resisting visitation or custody and you’re not sure what to do, we’re here to guide you.
Contact Catherine Verdery Ryan, Attorney at Law
We’ll help you sort through what’s legal, what’s emotional, and what steps to take next—without the legalese or confusion.