Emotions Are Normal—But Costly Decisions Don’t Have to Be
Divorce is emotional. Whether you’re sad, angry, shocked, or just tired—it’s completely human to feel overwhelmed. But when emotions run the show, financial and legal mistakes often follow. And those mistakes? They cost you more than just money.
Let’s talk about the divorce decisions you’ll regret later—and how to avoid them now.
1. Fighting Over the Couch or the Dog or the Dishes
We get it—some items carry emotional weight. But spending $2,500 in attorney’s fees to keep a $600 couch isn’t the win you think it is. It’s not about the item—it’s about control. And in the end, it’s a battle that leaves both sides bruised.
Instead, try:
Focus on the big picture: financial security, parenting time, and future peace of mind.
2. Saying “Fine, Just Take It” Out of Frustration
When you’re worn out, you might say “whatever” just to get it over with. But surrendering out of exhaustion or guilt can backfire—especially with things like retirement funds, child support, or property division.
Instead, remember:
Calm doesn’t mean careless. Let your attorney help you set boundaries without bringing drama.
3. Letting Revenge Guide the Process
Trying to “get back” at your ex may feel satisfying in the moment—but it often leads to longer court battles, higher legal fees, and more emotional damage. That’s especially painful when children are involved.
Instead, ask yourself:
Is this move about my healing—or about hurting them? One will help you move on. The other will keep you stuck.
4. Refusing to Settle Because You Want to Be “Right”
You may be right. But sometimes being “right” in divorce means nothing if it keeps you locked in a court battle. Judges don’t hand out moral victories—they hand out orders. And those can get expensive fast.
Instead, try this mindset:
Being wise is better than being right. The smart move? Walk away stronger, not stuck in a war you didn’t need to fight.
Divorce Is Hard—But It Doesn’t Have to Be Financially Devastating
The truth is, your emotional strength is in your ability to stay focused, not fiery. A lawyer who understands how to protect your interests without stirring up unnecessary conflict is your best asset.
You’re allowed to grieve and protect your peace at the same time. You’re allowed to want fairness without starting a fight. And most of all—you’re allowed to put your future first.
Let’s Build a Strategy That Honors Both Your Peace and Your Power
At Catherine Verdery Ryan, Attorney at Law, we help clients in Augusta, Martinez, Evans, Richmond County, Columbia County, and beyond navigate divorce with clarity—not chaos.
You don’t have to let emotions lead your case. Let us lead with strategy.
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