You’re Not the Villain—You’re a Parent
Just because you’re not the parent with full custody doesn’t mean you’re not a good one. If you’ve ever found yourself saying, “I’m not trying to take the kids—I just want to see them,” then this blog is for you.
In Georgia, noncustodial parents—often dads—get a bad rap. People assume you’re trying to start drama when all you’re doing is fighting for your right to parent. But here’s the truth: wanting fair and consistent time with your child isn’t an attack on anyone. It’s not selfish. It’s not petty. It’s your legal right.
Visitation ≠ Custody Battle
Let’s clear something up. Asking to see your child doesn’t mean you’re trying to gain full custody or take them away. In fact, most noncustodial parents are looking for one thing: a regular, predictable schedule that doesn’t get ignored or changed on a whim.
Here’s the catch: if you don’t have a formal parenting plan, your time isn’t protected. Texts and handshakes won’t hold up in court. If the other parent decides to withhold visits or “forget” the schedule, there’s not much you can do—unless it’s in writing.
The Courts Want You to Have a Role
Georgia courts recognize that children benefit from both parents when it’s safe and appropriate. In fact, the law encourages shared parenting time unless there’s a serious reason not to. But you can’t assume fairness will just happen—you have to claim it.
Parenting Plans Aren’t Just for Custody Battles
Many parents think you only need a parenting plan when you’re fighting for custody. Not true. A parenting plan is like a blueprint—it outlines when you’ll see your child, where pickups happen, how holidays are divided, and more.
If you’ve ever felt like you’re walking on eggshells, unsure if you’ll get to see your child next weekend, a parenting plan fixes that. It brings consistency, clarity, and calm—for everyone.
Why It Feels So Personal
When you’re denied parenting time, it’s not just inconvenient—it’s painful. And it can feel like an attack on your relationship with your child. But don’t lash out. Use the law. Courts don’t care about Facebook drama. They care about documented patterns, clear agreements, and legal motions.
You’re Not “Starting a Fight”—You’re Protecting Your Bond
If you’ve been told you’re “stirring the pot” for wanting a parenting plan, ignore the noise. You’re not trying to be controlling—you’re trying to stay present in your child’s life.
And no, it doesn’t have to end in court. With legal guidance, many parents work out fair terms without ever seeing a judge. The key is knowing your rights and getting it in writing.
💼 Need Help Asserting Your Rights?
At Catherine Verdery Ryan, Attorney at Law, we help Georgia parents navigate custody and visitation with confidence, clarity, and care. Whether you’re modifying an old plan or starting fresh, we can guide you every step of the way.