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There is a funny thing about the phrase “meet in the middle.” We usually hear it when someone wants us to compromise. “You take the first half. I'll take the second.” “You give a little. I'll give a little.” “Nobody gets everything they want, but everybody gets...

There is a phrase that gets used in divorce law that sounds almost clinical: “Irretrievably broken.” It has a certain finality to it. Like a vase shattered on a kitchen floor. Like a bridge washed out by a storm. Like something that cannot, under any circumstances, be...

There is an expression I have heard most of my life: Not every hill is worth dying on. It is good advice for life. It may be even better advice for divorce. Because when a marriage is ending, suddenly everything can feel like a hill. The coffee maker. The couch. The...

Not all divorces are created equal. They all end with a Final Judgment and Decree. But the journey to get there? That can look very different. Over the years, I've watched divorces unfold in every imaginable way. Some are resolved with thoughtful conversations and...

People have an interesting relationship with attorneys. They often think of us the same way they think of the fire department. Call when everything is already burning. By then, we're focused on containing damage. But wouldn't it be better if the smoke detector had...

Sometimes the Greatest Victory is Deciding What Isn't Worth the Fight Everyone wants to be right. That's human nature. When a marriage ends, the urge to be right becomes even stronger. You want your side understood. You want your hurt acknowledged. You want...

Some words carry more weight than they deserve. "Failure" is one of them. It's a word I hear whispered in consultations. Sometimes directly. More often between the lines. "I never thought I'd be here." "I feel like I've let everyone down." "I guess I failed." I...

Edward Bulwer-Lytton famously wrote, "The pen is mightier than the sword." More than 180 years later, I'd argue it's also mightier than the argument. Especially in divorce. Because once the conversations are over...Once the emotions settle...Once everyone goes home......

People think divorce is one decision. It isn't. It's hundreds. Some are obvious. Should we sell the house? What happens with the retirement accounts? What's the parenting schedule? Others are much smaller. When do I move? Who keeps the family photos? Should I answer...

There is a season in almost every divorce that nobody talks about. It's not the filing. It's not the paperwork. It's not even the divorce itself. It's the waiting. The months—or sometimes years—spent knowing something needs to change but not quite knowing how to...